The Real Shit

Chris and I for some reason have been watching a lot of movies or TV shows where the main question is: What if you died earlier than your expected life expectancy?  Okay... I'll fess up.  We actually watch one too many apocalyptic plot lines where aliens invade, or zombies munch on your brains, or that giant meteorite strikes and all humanity as you know it evaporates into cosmic air.  The beauty of all these less-than-positive-agendas is that all of a sudden, the fog that so densely sits in our lives miraculously lifts and our priorities and core of our higher self just shines.  Funny how impending doom can clarify your purpose on Experiment Earth but thirteen years in the public education system and five years in the post secondary education system does squat.  If anything, your poor human suit comes out of the educational cleaners freshly confused.  Well as I acquire each new skill set from the trial and errors of life I have stumbled to the realization that the following popular mantras in life are... well bullshit. 

IF YOU WORK HARD, YOU CAN ACHIEVE ANYTHING.
Uggg... I'm really tired of hearing this one.  I have been in so many situations where I have seen slackers with the right type of connections achieve more than people that "work hard."  This statement is degrading to all the honest people in the world that sacrifice their happiness because of this fallacy.  Yes they do achieve something but the pressure of achieving anything is just a giant fall from grace and into the pit of depression. My parents have an unrelenting work ethic and they have persevered through some really tough shit because of this.  The average first world country whiner would break down three minutes in if they had to walk the path my parents did.  Coming from a third world war torn country, my parents are major kick ass, gritty homies that can can draw blood from a stone and still have enough energy to brag about it.  They have done some amazing things but not because they worked hard.  They have done some amazing things because they focused on what they had instead of focusing on what they didn't have.  To them, they loved the freedom to create their life so they were so appreciative of their blessings.  They were so in awe of their life that it never actually felt like hard work.  If you work your ass off, feel like you're getting no where and are miserable then I have pivotal news for you.  The delusion that you will achieve your happiness will not come.  Do yourself a favor, abort "Mission No Where" and adopt another strategy otherwise you will be forever resentful because of this giant lie.

LIFE IS FAIR.
Anyone that has mastered potty training can tell you that life is not fair.  Life is a duality.   As humans we entered this duality to experience and authenticate our knowledge.  To do this we create really eff-ed up situations prior to re-incarnating and we all play pre-determined roles of good versus evil.  In the bigger picture this is perfect.  In the limited human brain picture this is a whole lotta S&M and messed.  Before you slipped on the human suit, you wrote your perfect script and really, the only free will in play is how you perceive the unfolding of events.  I would even argue one further and even say perhaps our "perception" is also pre-determined otherwise we would not have the right players in the right roles.  So what does that mean?  Do you just sit like a rock in the current and let the river of life take you where you are meant to be?  No.  What this means is that you should spend more time appreciating the present moment.  Stop worrying about the future because most likely it won't be what you envisioned.  Stop regretting your past because you can't do anything about it.  Understand the balance of peace and violence.  Know in your heart that light comes from darkness.  Realize that unconditional love comes from raging hate.  Roll with the flow and when life feels so hard, remember the therapeutic strength of water and just let it flow with least resistance.  Don't worry, karma rebalances everything.

FINDING YOUR SOUL MATE WILL COMPLETE YOU.
Have you ever noticed that happy people are happy regardless if they have a partner or not?  That's because real, sustaining love is not actually from another person.  Real love comes from yourself and for yourself.  This is easier to say than do.  If you truly love yourself, you would never dishonor yourself by subjecting yourself to poor treatment.  Think of yourself like an inner child.  Would you let that beautiful, perfect inner child of yours drown in a toxic environment, or eat crap or stay in abusive relationships or think negative thoughts about herself?  No!  So why do so many people talk so poorly of themselves?  Believe it or not, your biggest struggle in life is finding that unconditional love for yourself.  See the above paragraph about taking the bad with the good and roll with it.

So the common denominator in all the apocalyptic plot lines that Chris and I watch is that if your life is very short here, ironically you actually would start living.  You would screw work... and screw people (pun intended).  You would let all the people in your life that meant something to you, know how much they truly meant to you.  You would really appreciate the sunrise and the sunset.  You would let love triumph over fear and hate because it's just not worth it.  You would see that every soul is connected to you and therefore perfectly beautiful.  You would see the Light right before the Dark.